Hard to describe if this was a good day or a bad day. It was a beautiful day. It was a broken day. It was a day full of lament. It was a day to mourn the loss of someone who was a man among men.
Music
In Christ Alone
In Christ Alone
How Great Thou Art
Solo - Erin Thompson
My Redeemer Lives
Piano
Luke Krause
Dance Video - Somebody you Loved, Charity and Andres Farewell Dance, Piano Guys
Pastors
Mike Poelzer
Chip Bernhard
Speakers
Bryce Unger
Julie VanDixhorn
If there is
one person I can not live without it is Dave.
If there is
one thing I knew Dave would never do, it would be to leave me.
If there is
one thing that could destroy our family it would be to loose Dave.
So I wanted
to say thank you for the million ways you have supported us. You can see all
the acts of love on the screen and that is not all inclusive. You have been my
army. Most recently I asked for letters about Dave that have honored and kept
him alive in my life. We have had a number of people reference people who Dave
is similar to; we have had a number of Jesus references all the way to Ace
Ventura and Napoleon Dynamite with video links. So Thank You.
When Dave
and I would talk in the last months I would say…
This
wouldn’t be so bad if I did not love you so much.
This
wouldn’t be so bad if you weren’t perfect for me.
This
wouldn’t be so bad if my heart was different.
This
wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t believe a man is crucial to the success of a family.
When Pastor
Chip came over I said I had two questions for him. I asked him if the
proportion of my love for Dave over everyone else in the world was normal. He
said yes. The next questions I couldn’t ask. I was going to ask him if it was
possible I loved Dave more than any wife loved their husband in the world. Then
I thought this question is ridiculous and there is no way he can answer it. I
think I found the answer in my old letters.
Read Letters
The first
gift Dave gave me was a small file cabinet with pre-labeled files representing
all the important areas of my life and future. My mind instantly filled those
with dreams of our life. Dave helped me take every one of those areas from
conception to reality, home, career, family, personal goals, health, and
finance. We would always sit down 1-2 times a year and go over our goals
together. This was a great gift to me.
In 1999 I
gave this book to Dave. I would keep track of all the reasons I loved him and I
would give them to him on his birthday. I bought this before we were even
engaged and it should have lasted us until we were 85.
I know Dave
loved you too, but I really got the absolute best of Dave.
Thank you
again. I will keep the caring bridge site open as I still have to update a
prayer for Luke, a prayer for me as a mom, a specific thank you to my family,
AOD family, Signicast, what I have learned, a few other posts.
Lastly,
later in the service there will be a video that helps me express my feelings
towards Dave, our marriage, and love. Somethings can only be expressed
kinesthetically.
And for the
record I still think there was no way I could go wrong marring an older
successful man who picked me up in this car with a cloth roof and hood
ornament. You can tell
me if you agree.
